An interesting topic… I was recently a guest on a radio show discussing some key themes from a play and we touched on the topic of self-love. And as we dug deeper I began to wonder how many people ever acknowledge the love they have for themselves or even feel it.
My first question to anyone on the subject of self-love is ‘Why wouldn’t you love yourself?’ closely followed by, ‘What are the thoughts and feelings about loving yourself that do not sit well with you?’ if that is the case.
You see no one knows the hidden thoughts, the dark secrets and deeds we carry as individuals quite like we do and it is often these skeletons that leave us feeling shameful, imperfect and unlovable.
There is this sense of being lovable equalling being good, kind and pure at all times. But in reality how many people do you know who are these things at all times? And are they truly the only people who deserve to understand and know love? No, not at all.
Love is a gift for everyone, regardless of the acts carried out, the words being spoken and any unkind thoughts. It is through love that the dark side can be tackled. When we look at ourselves square in the eye, accepting ourselves with all our faults and making the decision to love that person we see anyway, that is when we can start to be who we are meant to be.
Love starts from within… It resides there in a never ending supply and can be experienced IF and when we choose to acknowledge it IF we choose to love ourselves first the good & the bad and IF we share that love with others.
‘You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.’
‘If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another that you aren’t even giving to yourself.’
Barbara De Angelis
Go In Love… Live Blissfully,
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A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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