I read a great Ebook last week discussing the topic of adversity. It came at a perfect moment as
one of my client’s was dealing with some very adverse conditions and the main points it covered were spot on.
Adversity has a way of freezing people into inaction and yet it is the very opposite of what is required. Here are some of the main points I took away as tips for getting through adversity:
- Avoid visualising the worse scenario. Far too often people get caught up in the worst outcomes and that, of course, deflates confidence and self-belief.
- Deal with the true threats. In adversity, there are certain things that are fact; a pile of bills unpaid, a handful of unhappy clients, etc. These should not be ignored (head in the sand), you need to look for ways to correct them, manage them & deal with them. Leading to point 3…
- Become solution focused. Start looking for ways to rectify the situation instead of dwelling on what has gone wrong. To resist a thought is to think about the very thing you are resisting!
- Avoid analysis paralysis – Thought without action = worry!
- Avoid letting adversity creep into all areas of your life. Look after your well-being, you’ll need your physical, mental and emotional strength to press forward and you’ll need the people you can count on to be supportive (so don’t keep them at arm’s length).
- Don’t quit! When the going gets tough, get tougher! Quitting is not an option. Every time you think about quitting think ‘This might be the corner I need to get around for everything to fall into place, it might be the last hurdle in a series of them to get over’. And wouldn’t you just hate to find out that if you had pressed on just one more time you would have got the results you wanted?
And throughout this process remain confident. Big smile from the heart, stand tall, move with purpose and own your space! Believe in you, your skills & your abilities. Be an action taker and get the help you need to get to where you want to. Adversity, like most things, will pass…
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A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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