When it comes to confidence building, here’s what every woman should know. The three ways to abandon self-defeat and learn to believe in yourself involve teaching others how to treat you, acting instead of contemplating, and finding a good coach. Mastering these can permanently empower you and change your life by giving your goals definition and making steps towards them concrete. You’ll also avoid the traps of indecision and self-defeat.
Set Boundaries. Eleanor Roosevelt was on to something when she wrote in her autobiography, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. So much of what we do each day can be gamesmanship by another name. This is an idea that can come naturally to status conscious men, but not necessarily to consensus-building women. This is not to say that you have to forget your femininity. On the contrary, being a woman can come with the perk of a thousand different ways to say, “No.”
Think Less, Do More. You’re reading this now because you’re smart and self-aware. Now don’t overdo it. If you’re looking to learn quickly and build confidence in a matter of days, don’t be afraid to shoot from the hip. If that’s out of the question for the more “err on the side of caution” among you, then nothing beats the one-two combination of a little bit of thought and a whole lot of action. You Are Not What You Intend: You Are What You Do.
Get a Mentor. Getting Together, Breaking Up, Taking that Job, Moving to that Place, Having that Baby, Going to that School, Switching to that Career. Belief to the contrary, no matter the situation, no matter the struggle: before you someone, somewhere, has been there, done that, and bought the T-shirt. Enlist them for your journey. Depending on the type of help you need this can be anyone from someone close to you that you trust to a professional whom you pay to mid-wife your dreams.
Now that you understand confidence building and how to empower yourself, you’ll probably begin your changes in a whole new light. Specifically, you’ll be more aware of others’ efforts to sabotage your hard-won self-esteem, you’ll break that hamster wheel in your head, and learn to lean on someone wiser and perhaps more objective. Now get out there and change.
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A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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