There is a lot to be said for being comfortable in your own skin and for being true to who you are. These things are far more important than wanting to be everybody’s best friend… because popularity by numbers does not define who you are.
In a recent training session, my group discussed their work relationships. I asked how important it was for them to feel liked by their colleagues. With one exception they all strived to be liked by everyone even if it meant doing tasks/work for them that they didn’t want or need. Is this a good thing? Does it really reflect someone’s like for you because you run around on their behalf? I don’t think so.
We all like the idea of being popular but when it is at the cost of our beliefs and values it doesn’t make sense. Being true to yourself is far more likely to gain you respect even if it doesn’t lift your popularity numbers!
I remember attending a women’s conference some 12-13 years ago and one of the speaker’s touched on the subject of ‘our need to be liked’. She quoted that ‘33% of people you meet will like you straightaway, 33% will be unsure but can be won over, and 33% will dislike you no matter what you do or say (yes, I know that leaves 1% floating, but who’s counting?!) So why spend energy on winning over the 33% when you potentially have 66% with you already?’
That little speech really resonated with me and it came to be a valuable lesson as I went on to start my business.
It’s not the numbers that matter in the ‘like’ table, it is the quality and depth of the relationships you build, the respect you earn and knowing that people like you for you; no hidden agenda.
You are not your popularity, it does not define who you are. It is your ability to live your values and beliefs that matter… Let them shine through!
Published by YvonneB
A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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