I recently had a call with a young woman who wanted to set up her own business but her level of fear was through the roof. She had asked herself a lot of things but she had never asked ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’
As we talked she explained her business concept. She had clearly researched it, knew enough to speak confidently to others about it and loved the industry. But she then followed with ‘What if she failed? What if she gave up her job and it didn’t work out? What if no one purchased anything? What if…’
Six or seven ‘what if’s’ later I asked her who was in her corner, who had she spoken to that supported her. Top of the list was her husband. He thought she was talented, bright and ambitious. He, in fact, encouraged her to take the leap of faith. Now that’s not a bad fan to have onside!
Next, I asked her ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’ She said if all of her fears became a reality that would be the very worst thing. Without going through all of the questions that followed we got round to discussing what she would do if every possible thing went wrong. To that, she replied she would review what had happened then either restart or if she felt it was not for her, go back to work (and she was confident she could get another job). And with that in mind, she was able to let go of the majority of the fears that had been holding her back from pursuing her dream as well as realising she could start the business whilst still in her current job.
It’s so easy to conjure up the worst possible scenario, distorting everything and making the possible seem impossible. When you have a dilemma ask yourself ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’ and when you have a clearer picture you can then decide whether the risk is worth it or not. And having someone to listen objectively helps too!
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A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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