Relationships that have gone bad, a work situation that drives you mad every
time you think of it; most of us have something we cling on to in order to experience ‘reminding’.
‘If I keep on remembering the way John spoke to me I’ll ensure that no man ever speaks to me like that again’.
‘If I remember the way my boss shouted at me in the office I can justify why I hate him.’
If… and so on.
What is the benefit of holding on to these bad feelings? Who in your life is going to get any joy from you whilst you are in that state?
There are really tough situations that arise in your lifetime, situations that can seem to last forever but how much power do you want to give to them? When you focus on a situation it is like reliving it, repainting it and bringing it into the present. If it was painful at the time it occurred what is the bonus likely to be of re-running it over in your mind or in a conversation in the now?
How much better would it be to paint it a shade of grey, minimize it and spend so little time thinking about it, it starts to fade? You can remember it but it seems so long ago it’s all a bit hazy round the edges. You can remember it but you don’t indulge in yet another conversation about it allowing the pain to subside, even if slowly.
There will always be people and situations that cause you to hang on to a moment for longer than you need to but you have the power to let it go. And as you begin to understand that power and use it you get to experience the flow of life in a much deeper, enjoyable way.
Remember that now is the moment and if you are still hanging on to yesterday’s news you are losing precious seconds of your life that won’t come back.
I’m not going to say it’s easy, it takes practice and commitment but it is so worth it. And after a while each scenario gets easier to move away from and that’s when you know you’ve got it licked!
Let It Go, Let It Flow
There comes a time when all bad things must come to an end. A time when you can stop feeling guilty, stop feeling bad. Make the decision to let it go and then let it go, let it flow…
Live Blissfully!
YvonneB
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A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Undermined
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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