“No matter how qualified or deserving we are, we will never reach a better life until we can imagine it for ourselves and allow ourselves to have it.”
One of my favourite taglines in my business is ‘helping women create the life they deserve and desire’. I came up with the phrase to express my desire to help women realise they could have the life they deserved if they were willing to get clear on what it is they truly want. But what has proved to be interesting is how little some of these women believe they deserve their dream.
When do you know you are deserving of anything good or great in your life?
I believe you are deserving of a great life when you decide to claim it. Just as the quote above states, qualifying for it or even deserving it through the contributions you have made is not enough. You have to want it and believe that you are deserving of it. Without the belief, without accepting you deserve a great life, how can it manifest itself? And how will you even know when you are experiencing it if you don’t believe you deserve it?
I spent a number of years not feeling deserving of a great life. In fact, every time I made a mistake I felt that I didn’t deserve more than the situation I was in. It was as if I had a need to beat myself up for not being ‘perfect’… whatever that is. And when good things did happen I felt uncomfortable with them and internally refused to welcome them into my life, often fleeing (relationships, jobs, sports even).
Once I threw myself into personal development and started letting go of the past mistakes, living in the now, realising that mistakes were part of my development and making better decisions about my future, I was able to see how deserving I was. I was able to open my arms to wonderful things and enjoy them wholeheartedly.
Deserving is not about living a perfect life, being society’s version of ‘good’ 24/7. I believe you deserve a great life because you have been given the gift of life in the first place. As long as you are striving to be the best version of you then you deserve to live a life that overflows with your hearts desires.
Don’t fight it, welcome in the wonderful opportunities that flow to you. They come to you for a reason… you deserve them.
Check out this EFT Deserving Exercise
Published by YvonneB
A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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🌱 Become part of the self-care revolution at Permission to Thrive or
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