Many years ago I worked at a weight loss centre. The company had approximately 97% female staff and the environment was… well, hell! Never before had I seen so much cat-fighting, back scratching and bitching. I was appalled and shocked. Women getting promoted based on whether the woman above liked her and could manipulate her as opposed to having the right skills and ability. I didn’t stay there for long.
Now that was over 20 years ago and yet I still hear about similar situations in workplaces today. When will women learn? If we are not prepared to nurture and support each other how can we possibly moan about the way we are treated by men in the workplace or in business?
For a woman in a position of power to go out of her way to hold another woman back says much about the level of insecurity she is experiencing. The truth is great leaders allow you to stand on their shoulders. They have no fear of you rising up next to them or above them for their power is serving.
In the business world when you start making a name for yourself the enemies come running out to pull you down. But if you want to achieve and step out in faith you better get used to it!
In true blissful living style, you are happy to share your knowledge and you willingly support others. The feeling of doing this is so good for the soul you just can’t help but smile. This isn’t about having to like every woman, it is about respect where respect is due and acknowledgement of achievement when achievement is made regardless of liking or not.
A few simple pointers in this area to ensure that you don’t fall into poor habits:
Gossip – Move away from this pastime. It isn’t healthy and it isn’t funny. What’s more, it is likely to come back and kick you in the teeth!
Sabotaging others success – women attack women more when they rise up, far more than men. Either be supportive or SUMO (Shut up and move on). You don’t have to read their stuff if you don’t like it but don’t shoot from the hip
Spreading rumours – Divulging someone else’s secrets or thoughts. It’s poor show and no doubt someone in the world has a secret or two on you… just a thought
Making negative comments online – it is not appropriate. We can so easily give people a hard time in the social networking arena and bring about catastrophic results from doing so. It is far better and far more grown up to speak to that person directly if you have an issue
Purposefully withdrawing friendship for no stated reason – you aren’t in school anymore! I am guessing that anyone reading this is over 30 and as such this really shouldn’t be an issue but… just in case!
So check yourself out. How are you stacking up? Hands up, I know how difficult it can be sometimes to dismiss gossip or refrain from listening to rumours but really, if we want to see change, we must be part of it…
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
This version is credited to Mother Teresa
Be a giant and lend a shoulder… save the fighting for those that don’t know any better…