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Guilty!

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Guilt serves one purpose; to keep you engaged in your past. It holds you there and if you model-2346258_1280are there you are unable to be here in the present. And that means you are not living your life because the only life you have is here and now.

Guilt is a grip like vice throwing up negative thoughts and behaviours you have had. The guilt might be related to the things said or done or the fact that you never sought forgiveness from those involved or even from yourself.

Behaviour is what you do not who you are so even if you have behaved ‘poorly’ you must learn to let it go. Behind every person is a skeleton or two (possibly a cupboard load!) You need to choose to forgive yourself and others or forever live at half your potential; that is eventually what guilt will force you to do. You will never believe you are worthy of greater circumstances if you overload yourself with guilt.

Wouldn’t it be great to have an error free life?  A life where you did everything right, where everything that was ‘expected’ of you, you did? The reality is rarely this.

Whether your guilt stems from something you unfairly said or did to someone else, ask for their forgiveness or seek to forgive the inability you experienced in that moment to do the right thing.

Where your guilt stems from a poor behaviour that became a habit, seek the help required to break it. Don’t be ‘fearful’ of asking for help, it may be in the asking that you set yourself free from it.

I have yet to meet someone who hasn’t felt guilt over thoughts they have had or things they have done but those same people made a firm decision to get beyond the limiting beliefs that guilt bring. They decided they deserved more from life than to stand in front of the skeleton filled cupboard in the hope of hiding their past from others. I speak from experience!

The truth is that in time people will find out about your past if they so desire and if the universe feels they need to know so why fight it? Your errors might be the story that propels you to a higher level of living, it might be the story that helps another make changes in their life or it might just be a relief for yourself.

Guilt

Kiss guilt goodbye. Guilt will cripple you into the past. Things said or done that you wish you could take back, do differently.

Write a list of all your past regrets. Read the list and sincerely forgive yourself. Acknowledge your desire and decision to move on and be the better you then either shred, burn or cut up the list and let it go. If doing this feels too simplistic to clear the feelings of guilt, go one step further and share the regret with one other person; someone you trust and who will not be judgemental. Talk it out of you, then let it go…

Live Blissfully,

YvonneB

Published by YvonneB

A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free! She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been: ❊ Undermined ❊ Under-resourced & ❊ Swept under the carpet She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential. Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to: ✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness ✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief ✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster. Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value. She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?” One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’ Connect with Yvonne and, 🌱 Become part of the self-care revolution at Permission to Thrive or 📞 Book a chat to find out about her coaching and corporate services: https://calendly.com/yvonne-b/20min

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