What have you already tackled or released from your being and life to feel free and live authentically? It’s about saying what you mean…
We don’t always have to be searching for big things to do or to change in our lives. Sometimes it is the accumulation of small changes that really bring about the biggest shifts and this could be something as simple as being true to your heart and mind.
For example: When something is bothering you, do you deal with it, sweep it under the rug or run & hide from it?
There’s a lot to be said for dealing with issues, challenges & disagreements head on although sometimes it is wise to take time to construct your words into an organised pattern in order to create a more fluid and clear conversation as well as to bring some objectivity to what is often an emotional subject.
When you deal with things head on, it allows for a clear way ahead, it relieves tension and it brings clarity to a relationship or situation. I have recently had experience of this and whilst the result was a parting of ways, it was the right outcome for all concerned. When you learn to break unhealthy bonds, you immediately felt lighter and freer. Yes, you may well end up questioning yourself why you hadn’t done something about it before but timing is everything and certain things occur to bring about the right time.
When you sweep things under the rug (out of sight is out of mind) every time something triggers thoughts of the undealt issue you focus on it; again and again and again… but as there is no action it remains trapped in your thoughts along with the many other thoughts. This is burdensome and over time the thought begins to eat away at you from the inside out, potentially turning into resentment, dislike, lack of belief in handling situations or some other negative emotion. It allows the rot to set in.
When you run and hide from things you are basically saying you don’t have the ability to deal with them or the know-how. And what happens with that? In your imagination, you end up putting it under a magnifying glass, shining a light on it and watching it grow bigger and bigger until you feel so fearful you truly don’t think it is within your capabilities to deal with. This can be soul destroying and crushing to one’s confidence. It paves the way for increased fear to come in and take up residence within you.
There is no one way of dealing with situations and relationships, however, saying what you mean is a sound place to begin. Whilst there may be fall out from it, it is likely to be overdue fallout. And once it is dealt with, things can move on. And life feels a lot lighter when you’re not carrying a load on your back, trust me…
Say what you mean and lighten the load, you won’t regret it if you do; you probably will if you don’t…