Our behaviour is a reflection of our emotions; how we feel. And the feelings come from our thoughts and our environmental experiences.
Would it be fair to say that when you think about something very sad (tsunami, earthquakes) your feelings tend to tune in with the thought? For a lot of people this happens automatically, they don’t even realise that’s what they are doing. That is the power of a thought.
In the same vein if you are focused on something jubilant (a wedding, a holiday or a new career move) the waves of joy you feel and the things you notice tend to be uplifting.
So it is clear that we are the ones who choose how we feel and in turn how we act… or react. The biggest issue with behaviour is that people tend to judge you on the way you act, yet your actions are not who you are, they are what you do. Bad behaviour will reflect poorly on you and so it is important to be aware of the signals you are giving off. Not for one minute would I say you are not to express yourself, however, there is a need to ‘think’ before you act and ensure you are not over-reacting.
Most of us have behaviours that we don’t like and it is often these behaviours we see in others and dislike. And that leads me to another point. When we dislike someone’s behaviour we need to ask ourselves why it is that, that behaviour offends us and to question whether we are equally guilty of displaying that behaviour.
Like most things we are used to doing, many of our behaviours are a habit. We have become set in our ways and act on autopilot. And this is yet another reason to start paying attention to how we are behaving.
We can change our behaviour once we are aware of it. And we become aware of it when we start tuning into how situations and people affect our emotions. It’s rarely an overnight change, it takes consistency. But if it helps us to be the best person we are meant to be… it’s got to be worthwhile right?
Behaviour Change Game
- What behaviours do you have that you’d like to change (Swearing, sarcasm, anger, etc)
2. Create a score card and note each time that behaviour shows up.
3. For each score, you get you have to pay a forfeit (something like contributing 50p or £1 to a charity or local community cause).
4. You must pay the forfeit each and every time. This will heighten your awareness to your behaviour and help you to start kerbing its frequency.
5. And whilst you are breaking the behaviour your charity benefits… A fun win-win way to change your behaviour!
Published by YvonneB
A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps women 50+ to reconnect with life & their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free!
She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been:
❊ Under-resourced &
❊ Swept under the carpet
She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential.
Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to:
✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness
✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief
✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best
A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster.
Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value.
She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?”
One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’
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