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Just Be…

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Just Be…

Life can be uncomfortable at times. There are days when you feel that no matter what shaman-2837843_1280you do, things are not going the way you want them to. And this may cause you to push more, to fight harder, to dig your heels in and try to force an outcome.

Yet in that discomfort, a different reaction might be necessary, might be the right answer. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let go and be with the flow; to let go of having to be in control and instead just be.

It’s knowing when to do this that is the real challenge. If your extra effort isn’t shifting anything, if your energy output isn’t changing the outcome and you are tired from exertion, maybe it’s a sign to relax. Allow yourself time to just be, to take stock; to reflect from a place of calm and pure surrender.

Because in this state of calm, creativity has a way of blossoming and what you were struggling to see or hear before suddenly becomes apparent. What you thought you needed to do is replaced by what you must do.

It is not about giving up, it is not about being complacent. It is simply taking a different action that requires you to trust the process and the guiding hand of faith that is always ready to support you.

Here are some typical challenges when the best thing to do is to let go and just be:

  1. Others Behaviour: you might want to change them for their own good, but you are not in control of others. They must come to their need to change through self-reflection and self-awareness. The best thing you can do when others behave in a way that you see as reckless, hurtful or negative, is to remain calm & surrender control. Change the way you behave and react towards them. This is often where your power lies. Don’t encourage them, don’t enable them, instead demonstrate a better way of being. Then it is up to them to observe, learn and make any necessary changes.
  2. Your Own Limiting Beliefs: so often you end up being weighed down by your own lack of confidence and self-belief. The old stories of when you failed, when you behaved irresponsibly, when someone told you, you weren’t good enough and you believed them. These things keep you small and when challenges arise you reprimand yourself and lack the belief that you have the power to turn things around; you forget how amazing you are and the potential that lies within. So, calmly surrender to working on your inner confidence. Start to remember the great things you have done, your successes and begin to unravel all the lies that have been constructed to keep you small… because you are a giant.
  3. Learn To Forgive: when you are angered by someone, by life itself or even by yourself, the venting and feelings of hate can literally consume you. At that moment all that is good in your life disappears and your focus on that one unforgivable thing magnifies. No one can tell you forgiveness is easy, but it is necessary if you wish to move on. Forgiveness is more for your sake than it is for the person you are holding all the negative feelings towards. When you fail to forgive, you become eaten up inside. It is harmful to both your physical and mental wellbeing. In being able to forgive, you release yourself from the chains that hold you ‘victim’ and that given the opportunity, will sink you. By calmly surrendering the negative feelings, putting your wellbeing first, forgiving becomes an easier option.

So be aware in your moments of struggle and seek to understand whether it is a time to float and allow the greater power to guide you into action…

Published by YvonneB

A catalyst for change, Yvonne Bignall is a breath of fresh air in the extraordinary way she helps brilliant midlife women reconnect with their innate power through radical self-care, guilt-free! She supports, encourages, and inspires women to prioritise their health, one bitesize action at a time. Her work is challenging as it navigates through difficult conversations, listening & observing how women’s health issues have been: ❊ Undermined ❊ Under-resourced & ❊ Swept under the carpet She helps women to recognise & unpack old scripts that still (sadly enough) tell them that their value derives from their level of caregiving of others, their output. The truth is it is the input, the ability to resource self, which provides women with the energy required to realise their true potential. Along with her team, she explores the thoughts, behaviour & habits, often born out of guilt, gender expectations, and reinforced narratives, with curiosity (not judgment), discarding the unhelpful, whilst reclaiming innate power through the creation of new patterns, restoring a sense of self, outside of societal expectations. In her opinion, this allows women to: ✔ Develop an elevated level of self-awareness ✔ Build / rebuild their confidence & self-belief ✔ Value all of who they are and invest time in who they want to be at their best A self-care warrior, an encourager & inspirer, Yvonne is today an award-winning Women’s Health Advocate, Published Author, and an International Presenter. She is also a Radio Show Host and a Podcaster. Yvonne is focused on building a community of women, www.PermissionToThrive.online, who are ready to reclaim their right to self-care, guilt-free, and who prioritise their health without apology, role-modeling behaviour & habits that inform generations to come of their true value. She also advocates for self-care over burnout in the workplace, delivering practical webinars in the corporate space. In her own words, “It is time for employees to prioritise their wellbeing. How will they deliver their best work without it?” One of her favourite quotes comes from Eleanor Brown, ‘Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel’ Connect with Yvonne and, 🌱 Become part of the self-care revolution at Permission to Thrive or 📞 Book a chat to find out about her coaching and corporate services: https://calendly.com/yvonne-b/20min

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